From the New York Times Magazine:

That means changing hearts. How difficult that will be was illustrated by a single vignette. When I met Polyak, she told me how, when she first testified before a legislative committee, an anti-gay-marriage activist, a woman, confronted her with bitter language, asking her why she was ''doing this'' to the woman's children and grandchildren. Polyak said the encounter left her shaken. A few days later, as I sat in Evalena Gray's Christmas-lighted basement office, she told me a story of how during the same testimony she approached a blond lesbian and talked to her about the effect that gay marriage would have on her grandchildren. ''Then I hugged her neck,'' she said, ''and I said, 'We love you.' I was kind of consoling her to some extent, out of compassion.''

I realized I was hearing about the same encounter from both sides. What was expressed as love was received as something close to hate. That's a hard gap to bridge.

I read through the whole article and it again raised the questions I have about this fear of gay marriage. How does gay marriage affect mine? The anti-gay marriage activists say marriage should be about the procreation of children, but then does this mean infertile heterosexual couples or couples who wish to remain childless should be denied the right to wed? How is this happiness hurting? I just don't get it.

I suppose this is what I get for being schooled in the "love thy neighbor" school of Christian thought.